“Some things are just how it is”

Fr. Ugwu Kelvin wrote

It is important we keep this in mind, not everyone will get married. There are those willing to get married but may not find those willing to marry them. There are those having lots of people ready to marry them, but they are not interested in marriage.

Marriage is not for everyone, and there is nothing wrong with that.

As a priest, I have come across lots of people asking me to pray for them to find life partners. I have seen people go any length just to bear the name “married.” In all these, women are always more.

As much as some people may want you to believe that your problem is spiritual, you must always remember that believing that all problems are spiritual is in itself the bigger problem.

Some things are just how it is. Some issues are social or societal, others are cultural. A lot are wrong choices — some people are at the wrong places at the right times, others are with the right people but at wrong times.

Some cultures don’t want women to go out in search of their preferred men, they ask them to sit in the house and wait for men to come. . .yet they will still blame those women if men did not come searching for them.

Nobody should put pressure on you. Be in control of those that want to control you.

As the bible rightly stated in Matthew 19:12 using Good News Translation. (Note: words in brackets are mine.)

“For there are different reasons why men (people) cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others, because men (people) made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him (anyone) who can accept this teaching do so.”


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