In my final year I had bagged a beautiful award, the Best Student Teacher Award in my faculty.
That award didn’t exist prior to that time, it was solely created for me.
I didn’t even know I was going to be awarded neither did I attend our Faculty Dinner where I was to be awarded. It was given in my absence and someone stood in for me.
I have many lessons I learnt from my years of teaching university Students but one of them is what I am about to share today.
For the 4 years I taught my fellow law Students, I never charged anyone a dime. I just loved the idea of helping people crush their goals and make amazing grades.
I foot my own bills and even days where we met on Saturdays and sometimes on Sundays because they pleaded, I paid my transport to and fro… It was really a huge sacrifice.
I felt rewarded each time results were out and they sent me their results with A’s. I was always overjoyed.
Well, something happened one day.
In as much as I know I am an extremely good teacher, I was not the only one holding tutorials for Students.
Not everyone was a “sacrificial lamb” as I was.
A particular day, I had scheduled a tutorial with a class in my faculty for 9am on a Saturday morning. When we got there and were about to start, I noticed some members of that class hanging around, outside.
I went out to meet them and beckoned on them to come in, they said they had come for tutorials. Their teacher was yet to come.
I told them to feel free to join us pending when their teacher came (out of my own Goodwill) they blatantly refused and waited for a long time until their teacher came.
I later realized that those ones had paid their own teacher and so were really committed to not just learning but learning from him.
In my free Tutorials, some people would not come and bring too many excuses to the table yet they will still come to me to teach them something I just taught really well and ensured all learned in my previous tutorials.
Because it was free, they will feel okay to walk in and walk out at their convenience, they will feel it’s okay to miss it, they will feel it’s okay not to take notes, after all their money was not involved.
I remember one student had offered to come to my house, wash my clothes and even pay me just so I will teach her something I taught others for free just because she didn’t attend the free class. I told her I was not disposed to repeat the lecture even for a price.
I learned from Daddy J.O that a person that wants to go far in life should flee freebies. Learn to pay the price.
Nigerians love freebies unfortunately it can’t take you far. It has this subtle way of crippling you.
I too am a victim.
Originally I love Myles Munreo’s books and messages, I read it as if I am eating the best of meals, I sap it dry.
Same as Joyce Meyers.
Not until last year someone added me to a WhatsApp group where they share Christian books free.
Now I have almost all of Myles Munreo’s books yet I have not read even one out of those neither have I read any of Joyce’s not because I love them less but because I can afford to be lazy or procrastinate since it is free afterall. I didn’t spend a dime on any of them to my own detriment ofcourse.
Matthew 6:21 It’s obvious, isn’t it? The place where your treasure is, is the place you will most want to be, and end up being.
I know you don’t have the money now, if it is important to you, you will save towards it.
I know you don’t have all the money, if it’s important to you, you can talk to the person in charge to make concession for you.
“Can I pay in installments?”
“Can I pay month end once I get my salary?”
Learn to pay for things.
Learn the Principle of sowing.
Psalms 126:5 They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.
© Frances Shine